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CALIFORNIA: Combating Loneliness
CALIFORNIA: Improved mental health is the most common response to a Forbes Survey, with 45 percent of respondents putting it as their top goal for 2023. With the rising rates of depression, anxiety, and chronic loneliness globally, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) warns that the health risks of loneliness and social isolation are just as serious as the risks associated with smoking or obesity.
Increasing evidence points people with stronger social ties live longer and express greater satisfaction with their lives.
Instead of eating healthier and exercising more, many are looking for advice on how to combat loneliness, cement relationships, and be more mentally and emotionally healthy.
Shalini K Narang (SKN) spoke to Vinutha Mohan (VM), licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in trauma and attachment repair in Saratoga, California about how loneliness has manifested and progressed and her advice on overcoming this scourge.
Prior to setting up her private practice, Vinutha worked at Stanford for over eight years.
SKN: How rampant are issues of loneliness, depression and anxiety?
VM: Loneliness as an epidemic has been growing post industrialization and Covid just made it worse because of forced social isolation, anxiety and paranoia. People are still struggling to re-enter the community in a socially intelligent way.
I see more attention being paid to this topic now, especially with Dr. Vivek Murthy, talking about it, writing about it in his book Together. He wants the government to start funding programs to end this epidemic of loneliness.
In a study that Stanford did across all age groups on campus wellness, we found that loneliness is the biggest epidemic affecting all age groups. However, it manifests differently across genders.
I have my relatives in India and see loneliness there too. My husband is from Mumbai, and the building he grew up in is filled with old people living by themselves in their flats, with only the television and cell phone as company.
SKN: Why has loneliness become so widespread?
VM: Social scientists are beginning to talk about how the so-called “nuclear family” has been the biggest failure as an experiment.
Seeds of the loneliness epidemic were sown due to industrialization-when people began moving to far away cities looking for economic opportunities.
Prior to industrialization, we had our tribe, the village priest, shaman, family elders who were available to talk and guide us. The village shaman was everything -a medicine man, a psychiatrist, a psychotherapist and a priest. People lived in the same ancestral villages for generations and had each other. They talked and helped each other out. All of that has gone away.
Sometimes, people struggle with loneliness because they have some sort of social anxiety, depression, or may have had childhood trauma making the world seem unsafe for them. Loneliness is first on the inside, before it manifests on the outside.
SKN: How has the loneliness epidemic progressed?
VM: Economic freedom gave us the unhealthy belief of each to his own, planting the “I, me, mine culture” and focusing on making a living, educating children, amassing wealth, etc. The construct of community and joint family slowly began to fall.
We came to the US as immigrants, away from our families, culture, tribe, and over a period of time got brainwashed by the puritanical ideal of a lone ranger suffering silently and primarily focused on accumulating material wealth.
We started to see vulnerability as weakness, telling ourselves that it is not okay to ask for help, just suck it up and, push through, pretend to have no weaknesses and put on a happy face.
Material success has given us a false sense of arrogance that we don’t need others.
And then there are those who hide behind politeness, “Oh, I don’t want to bother anyone, everybody has their own issues, everyone is struggling.” Using their kindness as a vulnerability shield.
This trend started a long time ago and now it is an epidemic.
We have been culturally conditioned to believe that we are somehow supposed to do life alone, and it’s a weakness and a personal failure to do it otherwise. This goes completely against neurobiology.
SKN: Can you expand on the neurobiology piece?
VM: We are not meant to do life alone. Our brains are wired for connection. That’s basic neuroscience. If you look at history, the tribes that would bond and band together are the ones that made us more gene copies.
Connection is really tied to our survival. We need cooperation and collaboration to survive. We are meant to work with each other and it takes a village- no matter what age group, stage of life or what you’re going through.
Grassroot movements are necessary. Combating loneliness cannot be top down, forcing people into programs. It has to be more of a grassroots movement.
I encourage building connections by creating small groups of true belonging. Authentic connection is not about having friends on Facebook or going to parties, having little chit chat, or sometimes doing fun activities together.
Connections are developed and cemented with deep meaningful, vulnerable, emotionally naked conversations where you can touch and talk about your longings, fears and wounds. I see that there’s a lot of fitting in, but the belonging is missing.
SKN: What are you seeing in the youth and any suggestions for parents of pre-teens and teens?
VM: With children, it is getting increasingly difficult to get them away from their gadgets these days. But, things to encourage are outdoor activities like organized sports-soccer, basketball or any others.
Especially for boys and men, team activities such as playing a sport leads to having deeper conversations.
Other things like doing art together, playing music together, planting a garden, hiking, camping, can all lead to deeper bonding. Children in a band, or a debate club, or in group art classes often have fun and deep conversations.
In some cases, psychotherapy is necessary to explore your woundedness, darkness and inner conflicts without judgements.
SKN: What are the specific challenges you see in South Asian immigrant populations seeking help for loneliness?
VM: I see so much shame around asking for help and going to a therapist to seek treatment. Some South Asian parents reach out asking for references for their children, but not for themselves. There is a myth that all therapy will lead to medications. Therapists are not allowed to prescribe medications.
A common theme in all my therapy groups across all age groups, cultures, and personal pronouns that many of us are caught up in is some sort of a narcissistic kind of spiral thinking. I’m the only one with this unique problem. Nobody can help me because no one will understand me because my problem is so unique.
The human condition is quite impersonal and our neuroses are not that unique. All fall into a few categories. There is nothing so unique about our wounding. It may have slightly different flavors, but fundamentally the human experience is sort of impersonal in its flavors. It’s so powerful when people share experiences in therapy groups and realize this fact. It normalizes their experiences.
Shames make us create vulnerability shields.
Many people have been victims of gossip too. Some people have had experiences of not having trusted relationships when they share something vulnerable, and had their trust broken.
SKN: What do you mean by becoming vulnerable in communication?
VM: Sharing stories makes us realize that we are not alone and can help each other navigate this earth school.
It helps us get out of this quagmire of, I me, mine thinking. I have never found anyone happy in the I me, mine, kind of thinking. It’s about a common human experience, and let’s help each other dispel loneliness.
When people share their vulnerable stories, a listener has to be a vault. You cannot gossip about it and use somebody else’s wounds as your entertainment over chai. Gossiping is a common disease in our community and prevents people from being vulnerable.
You have to be careful who you pick as your friends. Some of the ways in which you can make meaningful friendships is by starting small-with one friend, or starting through a common shared challenge or activity like volunteering at the temple together, yoga together or a hiking group, or a book club, art or a dancing group.
In common shared activities, find like minded folks but use your discernment. Don’t blab everything to a stranger but don’t just keep conversations superficial.
SKN: How does sharing stories and experiences combat loneliness?
VM: The more you don’t talk about things, the more it will have power over you.
What you keep as a secret has so much power over you and can keep you stuck. Trust at least one person and then slowly build on that.
One of the things that I’m very proud of is my community book club in Saratoga which I have been facilitating for about seven years.
I started it because I was tired of the meaningless, chitchat at parties about what AP courses your kids are taking and where you’re going for vacation and I was longing for something more.
We started as acquaintances and neighbors and over the years, we’ve all become deep friends and the friendships developed through reading and discussing psychoeducational books. It is a sacred sisterhood club. If you want something, you must be willing to create it for yourself.
SKN: How does social communication differ between genders?
VM: In many homes, a woman is sort of the social director of the family and the one building community and when there is no woman in the home, there is a void in the social network.
Men traditionally never developed too many friendships. Perhaps the men did not value friendships as much. There is some research about how in the past, up until 150 years ago, men used to have very deep friendships that were more emotionally intimate than their relationship with their wives. But somewhere along the way, men were shamed for such emotionally intimate relationships with other men and such intimacy was construed as romantic and forbidden.
When I was growing up in India, I saw men holding hands and walking or men hugging each other as friends. But all these things somehow have become taboo, especially in the west.
Globalization has also taken a huge toll on our social lives. Most of us, especially men, are tied to their careers as their sole identity. Our jobs are all consuming and leave us little time for socializing.
Remote working has only worsened the problem. When men get together now, they basically talk about impersonal topics like stocks, tech trends, sports. They don’t have the deeper conversations.
I run a men’s group, and have to work much harder to deepen the conversations against their deep conditioning. It’s tough to get men to come together and talk vulnerably. Teaching men to be vulnerable is hard work, but possible.
SKN: How does one deal with negative feelings?
VM: Feelings are for feeling. We must not be afraid of our thoughts and feelings. Conflict is how we grow. Avoiding conflict does not make problems go away. Human condition is one of struggle and suffering. It is impersonal. Everyone suffers. The intensity may vary. So there is no need to shield up and feign perfection. Denial leads to disease of the mind and body. Shame leads to inflammation. Find the courage to speak your truth and seek help to be authentic.
I believe in a psycho spiritual approach. I think these two fields are slowly converging.
Spiritual teachers say that many people who come to them should be seeing a therapist, especially for traumas. Instead they are coming to the spiritual teacher because it is less shameful and more culturally accepted.
In our culture, there’s a lot of spiritual bypassing. If they are having a difficult time in their marriage, they will volunteer at the temple as if that’s going to help solve the issue, or they will meditate away their problems going to some guru, or will seek an astrologer for a remedy. That’s not how you become authentic.
I am a very devout Hindu and conduct spiritual retreats. Spirituality is a great asset along with psychotherapy. The combination is what I call the psycho spiritual approach. Psychology for the “human” part and spirituality for the “being” part. The combination can be very powerful in healing your inner fragmentation and bringing you closer to an integrated self and an integrated self is an authentic self.
SKN: How does one have better vulnerable social communication in this culture?
VM: Sharing anything that causes us pain and discomfort is a great place to start.
When I go to India, and meet my childhood friends, I find them far more open. They talk about everything. But here, I find that we are stuck in some perfectionist bubble. There is so much posturing, performing, hiding behind a mask.
The South Asian community is a very successful community in the US and we want to maintain a certain persona and are afraid that if we say something that’s vulnerable, it’s going to affect that image of perfection. Shame and perfectionism are twin sisters.
There is no courage without vulnerability. Also, to have deep friendships and connections with others, you have to first develop a deep connection with yourself. If you are not connected to who you are and all parts of you, you cannot truly connect to another person. You are going to constantly project your issues onto others.
A mantra of mine is that everything is an inside out job -whether it’s parenting, marriage, being an emotionally intelligent leader or an emotionally intelligent friend- all has to start on the inside.
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WASHINGTON: Social Media Has Direct Impact On Mental Health- US Surgeon General To NDTV
WASHINGTON: There is a direct connection between social media use and mental health, especially among teenagers, the US Surgeon General Vice Admiral Vivek Murthy said. He said that his office had even issued an advisory in this regard, appealing for more focus on this very concerning issue.
The US Surgeon General is the doctor to all of the United States of America. The Surgeon General is consulted by the President of the US on all public health issues and health-related emergency matters. It is one of the topmost posts in the US and is responsible for America’s overall healthcare system, new technology in the sector, and scientific advancement in medicine.
The current Surgeon General, Vice Admiral Vivek Murthy spoke on a range of issues, including a growing mental health crisis globally and how social media impacts it.
“There is a need to protect our children,” the Surgeon General said, adding that it is a priority for him and his department to “make mental health the priority that it needs to be.” He said that “Many countries are struggling with mental health crisis, with many cases of depression, anxiety, and sadly suicide.”
‘THE STIGMA’
Vice Admiral Murthy explained that his advisory aims to focus on the “stigma around mental health”, which he says “makes it harder for patients to talk about it at home with their families, and makes their struggle harder because not often can they ask for the help they need.”
As an increasing number of young adults are battling mental health issues globally, the top doctor of the United States said, “Fundamentally what we have to do is to see mental health for what it is – It is part of our overall health, and mental health is just as important to a person as their physical health is, and must be treated with the urgency and priority that it deserves.”
‘GENERATIONAL DIFFERENCES, COMMUNITY OUTLOOK’
“Older generations are not always used to talking about mental health issues,” the Surgeon General said, acknowledging that “different generations look at mental health differently, as do different communities.”
“While older generations do not talk about it openly, the younger generations are far more open and sensitive to mental health challenges,” he said.
Speaking about cultural views on mental health and the stigma attached to it, Vice Admiral Murthy said, “We see a lot of cultural differences when it comes to viewing mental health issues. My family is originally from India, and the Indian-American community which I grew up in, we never spoke about mental health issues. In fact, it was something that was seen as a source of shame.”
Giving an example of his own experience of the stigmatisation of mental health challenges, he said, “I had an uncle who sadly lost his life to suicide. I remember the sense of shame around the family that something like this had happened. There was so much concern about telling other people what had happened because of what they would think about the family. That kind of stigma and the message it sends to both young and old people, is that these issues are just not okay to talk about.”
“We need to change this. I aim for a day where we can talk about the mental health issues we face just as easily as we would about a sprained ankle or heart disease. We need to talk about it with the same amount of openness” he said.
‘BUILDING BLOCKS OF A FULFILLING LIFE’
Young people are under tremendous pressure and stress of performing well in life, said the top doctor, and so, I asked a lot of young adults what success means to them, he added.
“We need to ask ourselves what we are doing to define success for young people in order to help them having a fulfilling life. When I spoke to young people in the US, many of them said they feel they are being asked to hustle behind a definition of success that is largely dependent on – ‘How much money you make’, ‘How much fame you can acquire’, and ‘How much power can you attain’ – And while there is nothing wrong in wanting to amass power, fortune and fame, if we feel that that is what is going to lead to long-term fulfilment, unfortunately life’s experiences and challenges tends to make us feel the other way,” he said.
“So, if we really want our children to be truly and deeply fulfilled, the thing we need to increasingly think about is – How can we help them build a life that is focussed on meaning, on purpose, on service, and on community – because these are the building blocks of fulfilment that we all ultimately want for our children,” he explained.
THE ESSENTIAL INGREDIENT TO MANAGE STRESS
Delving on the issue of stress and the pressures faced by young individuals, Vice Admiral Murthy said, “We need to see and understand where the pressures being faced by our children are coming from. We also need to mitigate and manage them to make the environment that our children are growing up in much more hospitable and welcoming.”
Explaining his statement, he added, “One of the things we know is that pressure is a lot easier to deal with – stress in general, is a lot easier to deal with when we have social support around us. Which is why the issues of loneliness and isolation being a broader epidemic is a serious problem in the US and increasingly across the world.”
SUICIDE – THE DEEPEST PAIN, A GLOBAL EPIDEMIC
Speaking about an ever-increasing suicide rate globally, the Surgeon General said, “Suicide is one of the most painful consequences of all of the broader mental health challenges we are facing today. The thought of losing your child to suicide is the deepest pain for any parent to deal with.”
He further explained that “Suicide deaths have increased significantly across the world in the last two decades.” This, he says, is due to several reasons:
- Loneliness has become a profound issue among children. It affects the entire population, but is hitting young people the hardest. It is now an epidemic across the world.
- The impact of violence and the fear of violence – Over 50 per cent children in the US now fear a school shooting.
- Negative news and mobile phones – Most children today carry or have access to smartphones that are constantly buzzing with negative and violent headlines which make them feel like their life and the future is bleak because nothing positive is happening around the world.
- Most of all, Technology and Social Media – Children are, on average, spending more than 3 hours a day on social media. By doing so, they face double the risk of depression and anxiety. It is one of the many reasons we have to address the harms of social media.
‘WE’VE FAILED AS A SOCIETY’
Social media algorithms are what make these platforms so addictive. These algorithms have a direct impact on the brain and the hormones secreted by it. But there are no laws to keep these algorithms in check. While even smoking or drinking have their own set of laws to not pose a risk to the public, social media firms have no such rules to bind them from using their algorithms indiscriminately.
Elaborating on the challenges faced in combating the harms of social media, the Surgeon General said, “For the last 20 years that social media has been around, we have broadly failed as a society to ensure that social media companies meet safety standards.”
Giving the example of cars, Vice Admiral Murthy explained that “Cars have a basic level of safety and standards in place. These standards ensure that that brakes are working, the seat belts and the engine are in sound condition, the frame of the car is such it protects the occupants of the vehicle. But we do now have anything like that, especially in the US, when it comes to checks and balances for social media. There are no safety standards to protect children in particular from its harmful effects.”
“The entire burden of checks and balances for social media are entirely on kids and parents. Not only is that unfair, but is ineffective, and we can see that from how it is manifesting today,” he said.
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TORONTO: Protein May Help Age-Related Diseases, Indian-Origin Scientist Discovers
TORONTO: A team of researchers, led by an Indian-origin scientist, has discovered a new function of a protein that may treat age-related illnesses.
The team from McMaster University in Canada found a previously unknown cell-protecting function of a protein, which could open new avenues for treating age-related diseases and lead to healthier ageing.
According to the study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, cells can create proteins incorrectly, and the cleanup process can become faulty or overwhelmed.
As a result, proteins can clump together, leading to a harmful buildup that has been linked to such diseases as Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s.
“If the cells are experiencing stress because this protein aggregation has started, the endoplasmic reticulum, which is where proteins are made and then released, gets the signal to stop making these proteins,” said Professor Bhagwati Gupta who supervised the research.
The team found that a class of protective proteins known as MANF plays a role in the process that keeps cells efficient and working well. Previous studies have shown that MANF protects against increased cellular stress.
The team set out to understand how this happens by studying microscopic worms known as C. elegans. They created a system to manipulate the amount of MANF in C. elegans.
The team discovered that MANF plays a key role in the cell’s disposal process by helping to break down the accumulated proteins, keeping cells healthier and clutter-free. Increasing MANF levels also activates a natural clean-up system within cells, helping them function better for longer.
“Although our research focused on worms, the findings uncover universal processes. MANF is present in all animals, including humans. We are learning fundamental and mechanistic details that could then be tested in higher systems,” said Shane Taylor, now a post-doctoral fellow at the University of British Columbia.
To develop MANF as a potential therapy, researchers want to understand what other players MANF interacts with. “Discovering MANF’s role in cellular homeostasis suggests that it could be used to develop treatments for diseases that affect the brain and other parts of the body by targeting cellular processes, clearing out these toxic clumps in cells and maintaining their health,” said Gupta.
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LONDON: Indian-Origin Teen In UK Gets “Life-Changing” Cancer Treatment
LONDON: Yuvan Thakkar, an Indian-origin teenager diagnosed with cancer, says he is now able to enjoy the things he loves after life-changing treatment thanks to a fund set up by the UK’s state-funded National Health Service to make innovative therapies accessible to thousands of patients.
According to NHS England, 16-year-old Mr Thakkar from Watford near London was the first child in the UK to benefit from a pioneering CAR T therapy called tisagenlecleucel (Kymriah) thanks to its Cancer Drugs Fund (CDF).
It comes as the National Health Service (NHS) marks a milestone this weekend of 100,000 patients benefitting from early access to the latest and most innovative treatments with the help of CDF. The undisclosed cost of such treatments is covered by the fund.
“My life has changed so much since I received the CAR T therapy,” said Mr Thakkar, who thanked Great Ormond Street Hospital (GOSH) in London for the “incredible” care he received.
“I remember I had to take so many trips to hospital and had long periods out of school… They have helped me recover to a state where I am able to enjoy so many things I love doing, such as playing snooker or pool, meeting friends and family, and going on wonderful holidays. It’s hard to imagine how things would have been if the treatment wasn’t available,” he said.
Mr Thakkar, diagnosed with a form of leukaemia aged six, received a treatment which modifies a person’s immune cells to recognise and attack cancer cells.
His treatment began in 2019, when he was 11 years old after he relapsed following other treatments such as chemotherapy and a bone marrow transplant. His mother Sapna said the family had received a “second chance” at life since the success of the treatment. Without the fast-track access available through the CDF, the 45-year-old said there may have been no other way for her son to receive the life-saving treatment.
“It felt like our prayers were finally answered. We still feel so grateful for this chance that’s been given to us and not a single day passes by when we haven’t felt thankful for all the doctors and nurses that have helped us through this long and difficult journey,” said Sapna Thakkar.
The CDF, which opened in its current form in July 2016, is used by NHS England to provide fast-tracked access for patients to all new cancer treatments approved by the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE), in addition to gathering further evidence of long-term effectiveness for promising drugs. It allows faster access to more than 100 drugs to help improve, extend or – in some cases – save their lives.
“Treating 100,000 cancer patients in England with innovative treatments through the Cancer Drugs Fund is a fantastic milestone for the health service to reach, and testament to the hard work of oncologists and their teams across the country,” said Professor Sir Stephen Powis, NHS national medical director.
“This vital fund is helping ensure patients get access to the most promising drugs far quicker than would otherwise be the case, helping people with cancer like Yuvan receive a life-changing intervention that sets a path for a longer, healthier life spent with family and friends,” he said.
The fund benefits people with common cancers, such as breast, lung, colorectal and prostate, as well as those with less common cancers, such as ovarian, cervical, kidney, skin, myeloma, lymphoma and leukaemia, and rare cancers, including thyroid and biliary tract.
The current CDF budget of GBP 340 million is 70 per cent more than the previous CDF and is used alongside NHS England’s Innovative Medicines Fund of GBP 340 million, which the health service said means a total of GBP 680 million is ringfenced for fast-tracking new medicines.
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